Christmas Wish List
December 23, 2021
Christmas Wish List
A Christmas Wish List spoken by those grieving the loss of their loved one(s) this holiday season.
* I wish you would not be afraid to speak my loved one’s name. They lived and were important and I need to hear their name.
* If I cry and get emotional when we talk about my loved one, I wish you knew that it isn’t because you hurt me; the fact that they died causes my tears. You have allowed me to cry and I thank you. Crying is healing.
* I wish you knew being bereaved is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn’t stay away from me.
* I wish you wouldn’t expect my grief to be over in 6 months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic for me. I will never be ‘cured’ from my grief.
* I wish you could tell me that you are thinking of me on my loved one’s birthday, anniversary and holidays. If I get quiet and withdrawn, just know that I am thinking about my loved one.
* I wish you would know the only way I can get through this grief is to experience it. I have to feel before I can heal.
* I wish you understood that grief changes people. I am not the same person I was before my beloved died and I will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to my old self you will stay frustrated. I am a new person with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values and beliefs.
About Lisa
I am a grief counselor, certified grief educator, certified professional life coach, speaker, and writer dedicated to helping you navigate through life and loss. My greatest joy is to help others, to have the honor to listen to your story, and to offer hope. I am truly grateful and it is my privilege to be on this journey with you.