How To Companion With The Bereaved
January 25, 2023
How to companion with the bereaved.
1. Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
2. Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
3. Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
4. Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
5. Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading.
6. Companioning is about discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it is not about filling up every moment with words.
7. Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.
8. Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them.
9. Companioning is about compassionate curiosity; it is not about expertise.
Grief is not an illness; it is the natural and necessary sequel to love. Unlike the medical model of grief care, the companioning model does not seek to treat or cure but rather bear witness, learn and accompany. Grievers are the experts of their own experience. Companions offer a safe space, an open heart, affirmation and hope.
Dr. Alan Wolfelt is one of North America’s leading death educators and grief counselors. He founded the Center for Loss in 1984 to offer education and support both to grievers and bereavement caregivers. He is know for his compassionate messages of hope and healing as well as his companioning philosophy of grief care.
About Lisa
I am a grief counselor, certified grief educator, certified professional life coach, speaker, and writer dedicated to helping you navigate through life and loss. My greatest joy is to help others, to have the honor to listen to your story, and to offer hope. I am truly grateful and it is my privilege to be on this journey with you.