In grief, there is no endpoint, or tidy resolution, or sense of completeness. Just as love goes on, so does the grief. There is no closure in grief. By actively and regularly mourning and integrating loss into our lives over time, we should be able to form healthy ways to cope with loss and grief.
The ache and void never goes away; the love you have for your person never goes away. Grief means learning to love someone despite their physical absence. To quote Dr. Thomas Attig, who has written extensively on grief,
“When we learn to love in separation, we fulfill our deep desire to continue loving and to feel our loved ones’ love for us. And we fulfill their deep desire to be remembered and cherished for what they have given and continue to give even after they’ve died.”
About Lisa
I am a grief counselor, certified grief educator, certified professional life coach, speaker, and writer dedicated to helping you navigate through life and loss. My greatest joy is to help others, to have the honor to listen to your story, and to offer hope. I am truly grateful and it is my privilege to be on this journey with you.